Using those two words in one sentence is not always common. How can joy and pain be associated to each other? how is it possible that both can occur at the same time? how is it that one can have joy and experience pain in the midst of it? Well, just ask parents who have been awaiting the birth of a child for months, preparing, shopping, getting the perfect baby room furniture, making sure the colors are just right,and the house is clean, because after all we cannot have our precious bundle of joy in an unclean house. Now think about the joy and expectation in this family, in this marriage, especially those who have been waiting for this day ever since that beautiful day at the church where they committed their lives to each other. Now, the joy does not end with those two, NO; it may be the family where there was already a young one, imagine the expectation of being a big brother or a big sister! And, wait, let's not forget the new grand parents or second time grand parents to be! aunties and uncles etc.
The day arrives, there was no bad news, everything was just fine, but then the baby comes out , not breathing, not crying, or perhaps, all is well until the first doctor's appointment, then the news arrives....Your baby is sick, your baby will need to feed through a tube, your baby will need to fight for his or her life for the next few weeks, months, or perhaps years, says the physician. After days or weeks or months of being at the hospital, you are sent home with a baby who needs more help than you can imagine to give on your own. What happens now? in the midst of joy, pain arrived. How do I balance both, how do I make it through this Lord?
I asked myself that exact same question when I found out right before the birth of my twin girls that one will need to feed through an NG tube for a while, the prognosis was not very comforting. Chinelo was Twin B, she came out nor breathing, not crying. I had a c-section, just weeks after having a gallbladder surgery (with the girls in my stomach), then days spent at the hospital, and my almost 2 year old baby having to visit me daily at the high risk unit. I was just becoming a proud mom of twin girls plus one more. But it maybe a long journey, sleepless nights, and multiple doctor's office visit because one may not fare so well. I needed help! I am not physically able to think through this! my husband and I cannot do this alone Lord! So not only was faith in God important, but the help of others; nurses and caregivers was what we needed to make it through those days. Flash forward 12 years later. Chinelo is a vibrant young pre-teen who loves science, is sociable, more so than her twin sister Zuzu and big sister Destiny.
After our ordeal, I decided to re-direct my journey as a nurse to becoming a home health nurse, and every child I have cared for in the past 13 years have reminded me of my children, of the time when we experienced pain in the midst of our joy. So I bring kindness, I bring love and often times prayers to those families and their Children. If you asked me? I will tell you this: "That is how KindTouch Healthcare Services was born" You are not alone. If your family finds itself where we found ourselves years ago, call us and we can help. (470-545-1629).
When I was a young girl, I promised my grandparents that I would always take care of them. it is an easy promise to make when you are young, but when life's uncertainties arise, it can make it difficult or even impossible to keep such promises to your parent or other loved ones. However, the services provided by a compassionate, qualified and efficient home care company makes it much easier to keep those promises.
Besides the ability to keep such promises made to a loved one, home healthcare services provide so much more:
* It is cost effective compared to nursing home other other forms of assisted living facilities
*Provides Individualized care as each plan of care is tailored to meet your needs and that of your family member.
* Provides for safety because care is given in the comfort of your own home, and allows for easier supervision.
*Provides protection from scams such as outlined by www.elderlawanswers.com
Elder Care Referral Services Attracting Increased ScrutinyAs important as it is to plan ahead for the need for long-term care, things often don't happen that way. A senior falls and breaks a hip or has a stroke, and suddenly there is a scramble to find a nursing home or other long-term care facility. To meet a growing demand and lured by fast money, so-called elder care referral services to help in such situations have sprung up around the country, exploding into a multi million-dollar although unregulated industry.
Most offer consumers their services for free, but there is a hidden price: nursing facilities and other adult care homes typically pay the referral service a sizable commission for any placement. In Washington state, for example, the facilities generally pay the placement agencies the equivalent of one month's rent, on average about $3,500.
This means that the service steers seniors to facilities they contract with, often without regard to the facility's quality. In an investigative report in 2010, the Seattle Times found that placement companies in Washington state had referred seniors to facilities that had documented histories of substandard care, including "residents with dementia locked in rooms to prevent wandering; mentally ill adults drugged into submission to control behavior; and bed-bound seniors abandoned without assistance for up to 16 hours."
Industry Leader Viewed As Lucrative Investment
The nation's largest senior-placement firm is A Place for Mom, a Seattle-based company that contracts with 18,000 elder care facilities in 45 states. Financial analysts estimate the private company has revenues of $50 million a year.
A Place for Mom has embraced a Web-based business model that is becoming increasingly popular among such companies. Consumers looking for an elder care facility in a particular area fill out an online form and are quickly contacted by one of 450 referral "advisors" working out of home offices.
Without any personal contact with the senior or the family, the adviser offers a list of referrals to selected adult homes, assisted living facilities or other institutions, and at the same time sends information about the senior to the facilities. If the senior ends up entering one of the facilities, A Place for Mom collects a commission, averaging about $3,500 in Washington state, according to theSeattle Times, with about $650 going to the adviser.
But the advisors refer consumers only to facilities that have agreed to pay A Place for Mom a commission. "[W]hen I asked them about a home that I heard about but did not see on their site they redirected to others," a commenter on the Web site alarm:clock, which covers technology startup companies, wrote in 2009 in reference to an article on A Place for Mom.
According to the Seattle Times expose, "A Place for Mom has on its referral list dozens of homes with histories of substandard care, including homes currently on probation for abuse or neglect violations."
But elder referral is big business. In July 2010, the Wall Street global equity firm Warburg Pincus bought a majority stake in A Place for Mom, seeing great growth potential.
One State Cracks Down
In response to the Seattle Times investigation, in 2011 Washington was about to become the first state to rein in these previously unregulated businesses. The legislature had passed a bill requiring referral companies to meet minimum standards, including that they clearly disclose to seniors and their families their fees and terms of service upfront and that they maintain at least $1 million in liability insurance coverage. Washington state's governor Chris Gregoire was expected to sign the measure.
According to the Times, as of 2011 lawmakers in at least a dozen states were studying the bill as a model for change. Although the legislation was supported by many placement companies, consumer advocates and adult home owners, A Place for Mom aggressively opposed the measure, including "spreading distortions about the bill," according to the Washington state ombudsman's office, as quoted by the Times.
Caring for a family member at home can be daunting task. Oftentimes, the caregiver needs care as well. As such it is important to consider the help of qualified, compassionate caregivers such as the professionals at Kindtouch healthcare Services.
However, the idea of allowing strangers into your home can be overwhelming. Also, your family member may not welcome the idea. So to help walk you through the process of welcoming a capable caregiver into your home, we share the following steps outlined by the "Family Caregiver Alliance" for making your loved one feel more comfortable with in-home help:
1. Start gradually. Begin by having the aide come only a couple of hours each week, then add hours as your loved one builds a relationship with the helper. If you feel comfortable with the attendant running errands or preparing meals that can be brought to the house, you can start with those services, which can be done outside the home.
2. Listen to your loved one’s fears and reasons for not wanting in-home care. Express your understanding of those feelings. If possible, get your loved one involved in choosing the aide. He or she will feel more invested and comfortable with the decision.
3. “This is for me. I know you don’t need help.” Expressing the need as yours, rather than the your loved one’s, helps maintain her sense of dignity and independence. You can also add that having someone stay at home allows you not to worry while you are gone. Make it clear that you will be coming back.
4. “This is prescribed by the doctor.” Doctors are often seen as authority figures and your loved one may be more willing to accept help if she feels that she is required to do so.
5. “I need someone to help clean.” Even if this is not the real reason, often people will allow someone in to clean when they “don’t need” care for themselves.
6. “This is a free service.” This strategy may work if other family members are paying for the home care or if it is, in fact, provided without charge. Your loved one may be more open to using the service since she does not feel that she is spending money for it.
7. “This is my friend.” By pretending that the attendant is a friend of yours you are relating the home care worker to the family. This can help with establishing trust and rapport. You can also say that your “friend” is the one who needs company and that by having him or her over your loved one is helping him out.
8. “This is only temporary.” This strategy depends on the condition of your loved one’s memory. If she often forgets what you say then she may also forget that you said this. By presenting the situation as short-term you will give some time for your loved one to form a relationship or become comfortable with home care as part of her daily routine, and give you a chance for a well-deserved break.
Call our office at 470-545-1629 and we can help make it easier.